Lord777
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We can all be wrong. Making mistakes. Doing stupid things. We offend. We make mistakes.
But you have to understand the first time. Once done, then it’s right. Be smart. Be aware of the interests of others. Measure seven times and cut once.
Does not work. If, of course, you are a living person.
How to behave when you made a mistake? Admit your mistake. Apologize. To live on.
It's simple.
In everyday life, another strategy is widespread: to dodge for a long time, to admit your mistake with a creak, to apologize through clenched teeth, to make excuses for a long, long time, in the end - to make everyone around you guilty, but not yourself.
The lower a person's self-esteem, the more passionate and persistent he implements this strategy. And why? Because he believes that if you choose the right excuses, then he will be "not at all to blame." Because he thinks that a good person is never wrong. And he really wants to be a good person.
The easiest way to be “good” is to find the bad one in time - the one who prevents him from manifesting his true, spotless, unblemished ideal essence.
Who are our "bad guys" today? My wife does not understand me, the bosses humiliate me, the children do not obey, the husband does not love, the parents get it out, the transport is late, the alarm clock breaks, the doctors do not treat, the neighbors are noisy, the gasoline runs out, the health deteriorates. Do not misunderstand me, I am not to blame.
Don't make excuses.
“I was late, sorry, I just went to bed late yesterday, there was a lot of work, several business calls in the morning, you know what an emergency we have now, everything is as always at the last minute, is it really possible to do something on time - eternal rush…"
"I'm late, please excuse me."
Did you notice the difference?
Don't make excuses. Excuses make you a victim of circumstance and take away your vitality. You yourself begin to perceive yourself as a small fry in the deep river of human relations. You lose self-esteem and self-confidence. You lose the trust of other people because you fuss a lot around yourself and constantly defend yourself.
You are not wrong - you are learning and that is your strength.
Be open and honest. Life is learning. You would never be wrong if you knew how it would end. Only life is arranged in such a way that no business begins with one hundred percent certainty that it will work out. So be open to your experiences and honestly admit if something doesn't work out.
This strategy of dealing with failure will allow you to psychologically complete the event:
? you will draw conclusions and take them into account in the future, without exhausting yourself with fruitless feelings of guilt
It will strengthen your personality - because by admitting your guilt, rather than blaming others, you act like a good person
This will strengthen your self-esteem - because you only recognize your specific actions as wrong, but not your whole existence.
Next time, if you find yourself starting to make excuses, stop and hold back. And you will feel more personal power, even if you hear a lot of unpleasant things about yourself. Hold back. Let people express their attitude towards you if they want to, and take it courageously. Hold back. Draw conclusions and keep living.
But you have to understand the first time. Once done, then it’s right. Be smart. Be aware of the interests of others. Measure seven times and cut once.
Does not work. If, of course, you are a living person.
How to behave when you made a mistake? Admit your mistake. Apologize. To live on.
It's simple.
In everyday life, another strategy is widespread: to dodge for a long time, to admit your mistake with a creak, to apologize through clenched teeth, to make excuses for a long, long time, in the end - to make everyone around you guilty, but not yourself.
The lower a person's self-esteem, the more passionate and persistent he implements this strategy. And why? Because he believes that if you choose the right excuses, then he will be "not at all to blame." Because he thinks that a good person is never wrong. And he really wants to be a good person.
The easiest way to be “good” is to find the bad one in time - the one who prevents him from manifesting his true, spotless, unblemished ideal essence.
Who are our "bad guys" today? My wife does not understand me, the bosses humiliate me, the children do not obey, the husband does not love, the parents get it out, the transport is late, the alarm clock breaks, the doctors do not treat, the neighbors are noisy, the gasoline runs out, the health deteriorates. Do not misunderstand me, I am not to blame.
Don't make excuses.
“I was late, sorry, I just went to bed late yesterday, there was a lot of work, several business calls in the morning, you know what an emergency we have now, everything is as always at the last minute, is it really possible to do something on time - eternal rush…"
"I'm late, please excuse me."
Did you notice the difference?
Don't make excuses. Excuses make you a victim of circumstance and take away your vitality. You yourself begin to perceive yourself as a small fry in the deep river of human relations. You lose self-esteem and self-confidence. You lose the trust of other people because you fuss a lot around yourself and constantly defend yourself.
You are not wrong - you are learning and that is your strength.
Be open and honest. Life is learning. You would never be wrong if you knew how it would end. Only life is arranged in such a way that no business begins with one hundred percent certainty that it will work out. So be open to your experiences and honestly admit if something doesn't work out.
This strategy of dealing with failure will allow you to psychologically complete the event:
? you will draw conclusions and take them into account in the future, without exhausting yourself with fruitless feelings of guilt
It will strengthen your personality - because by admitting your guilt, rather than blaming others, you act like a good person
This will strengthen your self-esteem - because you only recognize your specific actions as wrong, but not your whole existence.
Next time, if you find yourself starting to make excuses, stop and hold back. And you will feel more personal power, even if you hear a lot of unpleasant things about yourself. Hold back. Let people express their attitude towards you if they want to, and take it courageously. Hold back. Draw conclusions and keep living.
