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People talked about their biggest mistakes, which they made when they were 30.
A Quora visitor asked the question, "What's the biggest mistake you made in your 30s, and what has she taught you?" In response, people from different professions have shared their stories.
Tim Romero, entrepreneur
I'm not sure if this is the very answer you are looking for here, but my biggest mistake I made was anger. I wasted too much time when I was angry with my boss, colleagues, politicians, service staff, the girl who dumped me, my parents, and the people who lied to me.
My anger was not irrational. There were good reasons for this. Even today, when I look around and assess the situation, I understand that it was the right reaction. But my anger was a waste of time, and I hurt myself far more than anyone I was angry with.
Now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve stopped being angry and started sleeping better, I’m more productive at work, and I’m surrounded by good friends.
David Storrs, freelancer, entrepreneur
I took this amazing woman for granted. Worst of all, I was aware of this, and my pride prevented me from ultimately changing. This woman gave our relationship a good chance, and then (quite reasonably) left me. She is now married to someone else.
We are still good friends, and there is still a little spark between us, but neither of us can do anything about it. It sounds like hell, but it's better than not seeing her in your life at all.
So what did I learn? Don't be an idiot. Show your partner how much you value them. And if you catch yourself thinking that you've done something stupid, shove that damn pride away.
Alison Whitmire, psychologist, curator of TEDx
When I was 30, I made 4 big mistakes.
Mistake # 1. I postponed my pregnancy to a later date. At first, I just waited for the right moment, and when it finally came, I was offered a good job with career growth. And, naturally, I didn't want to go on maternity leave immediately after I got a new promising job. A few years later, when I decided to have a baby, I could not get pregnant. After a long course of treatment, I was still able to do it, but then I had a miscarriage.
Mistake # 2. I thought that since I was in good shape, I could continue to run during my pregnancy. In the sixth month my water broke.
Mistake # 3. I didn't fight for my child. Both I and my husband were confident that we were given the right advice. We were simply told that the child would not survive. During childbirth, I was injected with morphine, and I do not remember what happened after that, I do not know where they took my baby. And I am ashamed of it to this day.
Mistake # 4. I turned my back on my husband instead of going through this difficult time with him. I was haunted by a tremendous sense of guilt, and I didn't know how to deal with it. So I alienated from myself the person whom I loved and love to this day.
Things only got better when I turned 40. I got married again and had a baby. Did I have to go through all this to be happy? Yes. No. Probably.
James Altusher, blogger, investor
“When I was 30, I put my company under the management of a larger one, and it eventually went bankrupt.
- When I was 30, I played poker 365 days a year, spending little time on my family, health and creativity.
- When I was 34, I hung up when my father called me. Later, I never called him back. Six months later, he suffered a stroke and died. Sorry dad.
Claudia Azula Altusher, Writer
Society imposes on us that we must have a degree in education. So I went to night school, ignoring yoga classes. On the day I graduated, I went to my boss and asked for a raise. I had this damn diploma! He laughed at me. Literally.
I don’t know if I can say that I have a house, rather I have always been at the house. To be precise, in order to repay the loan to the bank, I had to work harder and harder, which I did not like at all.
Alexander Mayer, freelancer
I have some good childhood friends with whom I grew up. My fiancee didn't get along very well with them, so after the wedding we spent less and less time together. I did not call them, did not invite them to clubs and bars, as we usually did.
At that time, I did not really think about it and hoped that they would understand me, because they were like brothers to me.
18 years later, my marriage collapsed, and now I am trying to rebuild our friendship. But now, when we meet, they seem so distant to me. It will take me a while to get everything back to normal.
Don't think that your friends are your brothers. A brother will be a brother even if you hate him. A friend may not be your friend forever. Friendship requires constant attention.
"Lulula Song" (pseudonym)
Spent too much money on shoes instead of on travel.
She did not receive a programmer and mathematician diploma.
Didn't take martial arts lessons.
Didn't take family photos every year.
Michael Dorian Bach, industrial designer, photographer
I believe one of my biggest mistakes is focusing on my work and career, spending little time on my health, friends and family.
Over the years, I worked very hard and lived in this mode: wake up, go to work, come home and fall asleep. And all this was repeated over and over again.
I didn't even pay attention to how it affected my health, and didn't make enough efforts to keep myself in shape. Looking back, I can hardly remember any of those years. I was just chasing some ghostly target.
So now I'm going to catch up and seek harmony. Take care of your health. This is priority # 1. There is nothing worse than feeling tired all the time at 30. Trust me, it sucks.
Don't work without looking back. Create moments that will be pleasant to remember later. The older you get, the more difficult it will be to create truly valuable relationships.
Observe harmony in everything. I climbed the corporate ladder and was focused on making money, but that made me even more cynical. Don't be cynical, buddy.
A Quora visitor asked the question, "What's the biggest mistake you made in your 30s, and what has she taught you?" In response, people from different professions have shared their stories.
Tim Romero, entrepreneur
I'm not sure if this is the very answer you are looking for here, but my biggest mistake I made was anger. I wasted too much time when I was angry with my boss, colleagues, politicians, service staff, the girl who dumped me, my parents, and the people who lied to me.
My anger was not irrational. There were good reasons for this. Even today, when I look around and assess the situation, I understand that it was the right reaction. But my anger was a waste of time, and I hurt myself far more than anyone I was angry with.
Now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve stopped being angry and started sleeping better, I’m more productive at work, and I’m surrounded by good friends.
David Storrs, freelancer, entrepreneur
I took this amazing woman for granted. Worst of all, I was aware of this, and my pride prevented me from ultimately changing. This woman gave our relationship a good chance, and then (quite reasonably) left me. She is now married to someone else.
We are still good friends, and there is still a little spark between us, but neither of us can do anything about it. It sounds like hell, but it's better than not seeing her in your life at all.
So what did I learn? Don't be an idiot. Show your partner how much you value them. And if you catch yourself thinking that you've done something stupid, shove that damn pride away.
Alison Whitmire, psychologist, curator of TEDx
When I was 30, I made 4 big mistakes.
Mistake # 1. I postponed my pregnancy to a later date. At first, I just waited for the right moment, and when it finally came, I was offered a good job with career growth. And, naturally, I didn't want to go on maternity leave immediately after I got a new promising job. A few years later, when I decided to have a baby, I could not get pregnant. After a long course of treatment, I was still able to do it, but then I had a miscarriage.
Mistake # 2. I thought that since I was in good shape, I could continue to run during my pregnancy. In the sixth month my water broke.
Mistake # 3. I didn't fight for my child. Both I and my husband were confident that we were given the right advice. We were simply told that the child would not survive. During childbirth, I was injected with morphine, and I do not remember what happened after that, I do not know where they took my baby. And I am ashamed of it to this day.
Mistake # 4. I turned my back on my husband instead of going through this difficult time with him. I was haunted by a tremendous sense of guilt, and I didn't know how to deal with it. So I alienated from myself the person whom I loved and love to this day.
Things only got better when I turned 40. I got married again and had a baby. Did I have to go through all this to be happy? Yes. No. Probably.
James Altusher, blogger, investor
“When I was 30, I put my company under the management of a larger one, and it eventually went bankrupt.
- When I was 30, I played poker 365 days a year, spending little time on my family, health and creativity.
- When I was 34, I hung up when my father called me. Later, I never called him back. Six months later, he suffered a stroke and died. Sorry dad.
Claudia Azula Altusher, Writer
Society imposes on us that we must have a degree in education. So I went to night school, ignoring yoga classes. On the day I graduated, I went to my boss and asked for a raise. I had this damn diploma! He laughed at me. Literally.
I don’t know if I can say that I have a house, rather I have always been at the house. To be precise, in order to repay the loan to the bank, I had to work harder and harder, which I did not like at all.
Alexander Mayer, freelancer
I have some good childhood friends with whom I grew up. My fiancee didn't get along very well with them, so after the wedding we spent less and less time together. I did not call them, did not invite them to clubs and bars, as we usually did.
At that time, I did not really think about it and hoped that they would understand me, because they were like brothers to me.
18 years later, my marriage collapsed, and now I am trying to rebuild our friendship. But now, when we meet, they seem so distant to me. It will take me a while to get everything back to normal.
Don't think that your friends are your brothers. A brother will be a brother even if you hate him. A friend may not be your friend forever. Friendship requires constant attention.
"Lulula Song" (pseudonym)
Spent too much money on shoes instead of on travel.
She did not receive a programmer and mathematician diploma.
Didn't take martial arts lessons.
Didn't take family photos every year.
Michael Dorian Bach, industrial designer, photographer
I believe one of my biggest mistakes is focusing on my work and career, spending little time on my health, friends and family.
Over the years, I worked very hard and lived in this mode: wake up, go to work, come home and fall asleep. And all this was repeated over and over again.
I didn't even pay attention to how it affected my health, and didn't make enough efforts to keep myself in shape. Looking back, I can hardly remember any of those years. I was just chasing some ghostly target.
So now I'm going to catch up and seek harmony. Take care of your health. This is priority # 1. There is nothing worse than feeling tired all the time at 30. Trust me, it sucks.
Don't work without looking back. Create moments that will be pleasant to remember later. The older you get, the more difficult it will be to create truly valuable relationships.
Observe harmony in everything. I climbed the corporate ladder and was focused on making money, but that made me even more cynical. Don't be cynical, buddy.
