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Once upon a time there was a topic on redite where people shared their psycho tricks that they use in life, and today we will analyze them with our additions. Let's go!
How to get rid of a person?
When colleagues in the office stop at my desk, decide to chat with me and refuse to leave me alone, I get up and go to pour myself some water, continuing to communicate with them. Then instead of going to my table, I go to theirs, and they instinctively sit down at it. I end up just rounding out the dialogue and getting back to work.
How to stop questions?
My youngest son (4 years old) recently entered the why-why phase. I read in the article that the best way to stop the endless stream of questions is to ask " I'm not sure, but what do you think ?" It's like a gift from God. The child himself answers his own question, you say something like “I like your version,” and he immediately lags behind you. Brilliant!
How to please everyone?
To avoid drama at work and to please everyone, you need to compliment people behind them.
How to get help?
At the moment I have about 240 people under my supervision in six restaurants. It is often difficult to get them to do what is required. As it turned out, the phrase "I need your help with ..." is very effective. People need to feel needed that something is changing due to their actions. Letting them know makes real change.
How to find out more about a person?
Merely listening to someone without giving advice or extracting information usually allows me to learn more about the person than if I questioned them.
How to impose your idea?
I work as a creative director. I have a lot of amazing clients, but unfortunately, quite a few unpleasant managers on their part. Most often, their mantra is: "If this is not my idea, then it will not work." Sometimes I have to give examples of how Google, Tesla, Amazon, Samsung, etc. are doing something, and we could copy their ideas. They are delighted. Most often, the ideas are mine or my team's. Works flawlessly.
Be careful with this "trick" - you shouldn't use it every time. It works, but you need to know when you need it. If you say this all the time, you will devalue your own work. It can also lead to the promotion of those who may not deserve it.
How to impose your point of view?
During an argument - first find something to agree on, and then push your position
Choose your words
Better to say "You're right" instead of "I know." Then you won't look like an asshole, because the other person may have just found out about it.
How to remember important information?
If you need to remember something, think about it by doing something unusual. As a result, the memory will bind to this “something” and in the future “something” will evoke this particular memory.
For example: you will need to take out the trash before bed. Place your pillow on the other end of the bed
Funny life hack
If you lend something to someone, he will most likely take it. The funniest psychological trick)
How to make a person open up?
If you need to curb someone's ardor, ask a question about some numbers / personal information. I am a hotline manager and it works very well.
If someone has lost control of themselves or shut down, asking about their phone number / address / insurance / date of birth can pull them out of this emotional state and return to one in which they can more easily and calmly explain what happened. I often ask these questions, even if I have this information, to ease a tense situation.
How to make a person feel free?
If someone is shy talking to you, then I advise you to look at him and occasionally nod your head. It helps such people to keep the conversation going.
Choose your words
Instead of "Do you have any questions?" ask "What questions do you have?"
The first most often ends with silence, and the second creates a comfortable environment that helps people get together and ask a question of interest.
How can you avoid the awkwardness of parting?
My wife says this is the most manipulative thing I do.
When I accidentally meet my acquaintance (not a friend, but an acquaintance!), I naturally say hello, and the further dialogue looks something like this:
- Hi! How are you, * name * ? You look good!
- * laughter * Thank you! I'm fine, and how are you?
- Great, so I'm heading to * the place I'm going to at the moment and saying why I'm going there * . How did you end up here?
- * They tell in the same detail where they are going and why *
- Great! Well, I won't detain you anymore. Have a nice day * name *!
This trick leaves the other person in a good mood, leaves no room for any awkwardness from interrupting the conversation, and makes them want to leave.
Keep positive
If you always seem happy when you meet someone, then sooner or later they will also be happy to see you.
Good
Be kind, even to assholes. It's funny to watch them gradually calm down if you don't give in to anger.
Do not offend people, but let them understand what you would like from them. For example, if someone is obviously being rude, say that you really like it when he / she talks to you politely. They cannot object to this and gradually realize their mistake.
How do you get what you want?
First, ask for something impossible and get rejected, and then ask for what you need. This technique is called "Door to Face".
How beautiful to present criticism?
If you want to give out some kind of criticism, try to squeeze it between two positive facts about the person (positive - negative - positive). Usually, this is how people perceive criticism better.
Want to get people to treat you well?
Ask them for a favor, even the smallest one like "could you hold my pen for a couple of seconds." This deceives the brain, because it thinks "I agreed to help this person, so I like him, otherwise I would not."
How to get away from a conversation / question?
If you have to listen to someone else's excuses, or if that person is just behaving incorrectly, most often the best way is to just look at them with mild interest and not respond. If you do not ask them any questions, they will simply drive themselves into a corner and be confused by their own words.
I was taught this trick by the old Director, who controlled literally everything during the meetings, because he was the most silent and calm person in the room. I remember a case when he was asked an absolutely ridiculous question, and he just looked at this person for 15 seconds. 15 seconds is quite a long time if they are staring at you in a room with a lot of people. So he just sat back down, and no one could understand whether the Director was angry. Or just silently pondering the question
We develop the necessary quality in a person
Thank people for the qualities you want from them. Instead of apologizing to the client for being late, thank them for their patience and understanding, then they will be ashamed not to correspond in the future. Works flawlessly.
Respect someone else's position
Instead of an open dispute, I first agree with the person, then make a comment on their position, and at the end I explain my position. You should always end on a positive note. The idea is to show the opponent respect for his position. Assuming that a person is not a complete idiot, there is always something reasonable in his words. Instead of shutting up the person and picking up his mistake, you listen to him. Then you can express your point of view. The goal is to have an exchange of opinions, not a stupid argument where no one agrees with anyone and eventually leaves without learning from the other person.
Speak straight
Be direct and subjective when you need something. Instead of asking “does anyone have a pen” ask “who has a pen”. Instead of asking someone to call an ambulance, say “so, you, in a blue jacket, what's your name? Ok, Tom, call the ambulance and tell me when they come to us"
How to catch a person in a lie?
When I know that someone is hiding something from me, I just look at them and remain silent - I don't nod, I don't hint - I just look. Silence usually pulls out the truth or some detail from a person. The trick is called "aggressive listening"
How to get rid of a person?
When colleagues in the office stop at my desk, decide to chat with me and refuse to leave me alone, I get up and go to pour myself some water, continuing to communicate with them. Then instead of going to my table, I go to theirs, and they instinctively sit down at it. I end up just rounding out the dialogue and getting back to work.
How to stop questions?
My youngest son (4 years old) recently entered the why-why phase. I read in the article that the best way to stop the endless stream of questions is to ask " I'm not sure, but what do you think ?" It's like a gift from God. The child himself answers his own question, you say something like “I like your version,” and he immediately lags behind you. Brilliant!
How to please everyone?
To avoid drama at work and to please everyone, you need to compliment people behind them.
How to get help?
At the moment I have about 240 people under my supervision in six restaurants. It is often difficult to get them to do what is required. As it turned out, the phrase "I need your help with ..." is very effective. People need to feel needed that something is changing due to their actions. Letting them know makes real change.
How to find out more about a person?
Merely listening to someone without giving advice or extracting information usually allows me to learn more about the person than if I questioned them.
How to impose your idea?
I work as a creative director. I have a lot of amazing clients, but unfortunately, quite a few unpleasant managers on their part. Most often, their mantra is: "If this is not my idea, then it will not work." Sometimes I have to give examples of how Google, Tesla, Amazon, Samsung, etc. are doing something, and we could copy their ideas. They are delighted. Most often, the ideas are mine or my team's. Works flawlessly.
Be careful with this "trick" - you shouldn't use it every time. It works, but you need to know when you need it. If you say this all the time, you will devalue your own work. It can also lead to the promotion of those who may not deserve it.
How to impose your point of view?
During an argument - first find something to agree on, and then push your position
Choose your words
Better to say "You're right" instead of "I know." Then you won't look like an asshole, because the other person may have just found out about it.
How to remember important information?
If you need to remember something, think about it by doing something unusual. As a result, the memory will bind to this “something” and in the future “something” will evoke this particular memory.
For example: you will need to take out the trash before bed. Place your pillow on the other end of the bed
Funny life hack
If you lend something to someone, he will most likely take it. The funniest psychological trick)
How to make a person open up?
If you need to curb someone's ardor, ask a question about some numbers / personal information. I am a hotline manager and it works very well.
If someone has lost control of themselves or shut down, asking about their phone number / address / insurance / date of birth can pull them out of this emotional state and return to one in which they can more easily and calmly explain what happened. I often ask these questions, even if I have this information, to ease a tense situation.
How to make a person feel free?
If someone is shy talking to you, then I advise you to look at him and occasionally nod your head. It helps such people to keep the conversation going.
Choose your words
Instead of "Do you have any questions?" ask "What questions do you have?"
The first most often ends with silence, and the second creates a comfortable environment that helps people get together and ask a question of interest.
How can you avoid the awkwardness of parting?
My wife says this is the most manipulative thing I do.
When I accidentally meet my acquaintance (not a friend, but an acquaintance!), I naturally say hello, and the further dialogue looks something like this:
- Hi! How are you, * name * ? You look good!
- * laughter * Thank you! I'm fine, and how are you?
- Great, so I'm heading to * the place I'm going to at the moment and saying why I'm going there * . How did you end up here?
- * They tell in the same detail where they are going and why *
- Great! Well, I won't detain you anymore. Have a nice day * name *!
This trick leaves the other person in a good mood, leaves no room for any awkwardness from interrupting the conversation, and makes them want to leave.
Keep positive
If you always seem happy when you meet someone, then sooner or later they will also be happy to see you.
Good
Be kind, even to assholes. It's funny to watch them gradually calm down if you don't give in to anger.
Do not offend people, but let them understand what you would like from them. For example, if someone is obviously being rude, say that you really like it when he / she talks to you politely. They cannot object to this and gradually realize their mistake.
How do you get what you want?
First, ask for something impossible and get rejected, and then ask for what you need. This technique is called "Door to Face".
How beautiful to present criticism?
If you want to give out some kind of criticism, try to squeeze it between two positive facts about the person (positive - negative - positive). Usually, this is how people perceive criticism better.
Want to get people to treat you well?
Ask them for a favor, even the smallest one like "could you hold my pen for a couple of seconds." This deceives the brain, because it thinks "I agreed to help this person, so I like him, otherwise I would not."
How to get away from a conversation / question?
If you have to listen to someone else's excuses, or if that person is just behaving incorrectly, most often the best way is to just look at them with mild interest and not respond. If you do not ask them any questions, they will simply drive themselves into a corner and be confused by their own words.
I was taught this trick by the old Director, who controlled literally everything during the meetings, because he was the most silent and calm person in the room. I remember a case when he was asked an absolutely ridiculous question, and he just looked at this person for 15 seconds. 15 seconds is quite a long time if they are staring at you in a room with a lot of people. So he just sat back down, and no one could understand whether the Director was angry. Or just silently pondering the question
We develop the necessary quality in a person
Thank people for the qualities you want from them. Instead of apologizing to the client for being late, thank them for their patience and understanding, then they will be ashamed not to correspond in the future. Works flawlessly.
Respect someone else's position
Instead of an open dispute, I first agree with the person, then make a comment on their position, and at the end I explain my position. You should always end on a positive note. The idea is to show the opponent respect for his position. Assuming that a person is not a complete idiot, there is always something reasonable in his words. Instead of shutting up the person and picking up his mistake, you listen to him. Then you can express your point of view. The goal is to have an exchange of opinions, not a stupid argument where no one agrees with anyone and eventually leaves without learning from the other person.
Speak straight
Be direct and subjective when you need something. Instead of asking “does anyone have a pen” ask “who has a pen”. Instead of asking someone to call an ambulance, say “so, you, in a blue jacket, what's your name? Ok, Tom, call the ambulance and tell me when they come to us"
How to catch a person in a lie?
When I know that someone is hiding something from me, I just look at them and remain silent - I don't nod, I don't hint - I just look. Silence usually pulls out the truth or some detail from a person. The trick is called "aggressive listening"
