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Teens tend to believe that they and their behavior are as interesting to other people as they are to themselves, and they worry about other people finding out about their shortcomings.
The idea that other people are constantly observing and evaluating them has been called an IMAGINATED AUDIENCE.
Since adolescents are not sure of their identity, when trying to understand who they really are, they react painfully to the opinions of others.
Not being able to identify the feelings of other people, adolescents at the same time are absorbed in their own feelings, believing that their emotions are unique and no one else has ever experienced and will not experience such suffering or such delight as they do
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And some of them begin to believe in a PERSONAL MYTH - the consciousness that they are so unique that they are an exception to the ordinary laws of nature and will live forever.
Another personal myth is the fantasy of a foundling. Armed with new critical thoughts, a teenager suddenly begins to see many flaws in his parents and cannot imagine how two ordinary and limited people could give birth to this subtle and unique individual - himself.
Such self-absorption, self-centeredness, can be a serious obstacle when trying to learn to objectively look at the rest of the world.
Fortunately, for many, by the age of 15-16, they begin to understand that most people do not pay attention to them, and they obey the same laws of nature as everyone else.
From the book "Developmental Psychology" by G. Craig
The idea that other people are constantly observing and evaluating them has been called an IMAGINATED AUDIENCE.
Since adolescents are not sure of their identity, when trying to understand who they really are, they react painfully to the opinions of others.
Not being able to identify the feelings of other people, adolescents at the same time are absorbed in their own feelings, believing that their emotions are unique and no one else has ever experienced and will not experience such suffering or such delight as they do
.And some of them begin to believe in a PERSONAL MYTH - the consciousness that they are so unique that they are an exception to the ordinary laws of nature and will live forever.
Another personal myth is the fantasy of a foundling. Armed with new critical thoughts, a teenager suddenly begins to see many flaws in his parents and cannot imagine how two ordinary and limited people
could give birth to this subtle and unique individual - himself.Such self-absorption, self-centeredness, can be a serious obstacle when trying to learn to objectively look at the rest of the world.
Fortunately, for many, by the age of 15-16, they begin to understand that most people do not pay attention to them, and they obey the same laws of nature as everyone else
.From the book "Developmental Psychology" by G. Craig
