Carder Intelligence

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A carder must be intelligent! And if his profession does not require intelligence? And if he could not get an education: this is how the circumstances developed. What if the environment doesn't allow it? And if intelligence makes him a "black sheep" among his colleagues, friends, relatives, will it simply interfere with his rapprochement with other people?

No, no and NO! Intelligence is needed under all circumstances. It is needed both for others and for the person himself.

This is very, very important, and above all in order to live happily and for a long time - yes, for a long time! For intelligence is equal to moral health, and health is needed in order to live long - not only physically, but also mentally. One old book says: "Honor your father and your mother, and you will be long on earth." This applies to both the whole nation and the individual. This is wise.

But first of all, let us define what intelligence is, and then why it is associated with the commandment of longevity.

Many people think: an intelligent person is one who has read a lot, received a good education (and even mainly humanitarian), traveled a lot, knows several languages.

And yet you can have all this and be unintelligent, and you can not possess anything to a large extent, but still be an internally intelligent person.

Education should not be confused with intelligence. Education lives with the old content, intelligence - the creation of the new and the awareness of the old as new.

Moreover ... Deprive a truly intelligent person of all his knowledge, education, deprive him of his very memory. Let him forget everything in the world, he will not know the classics of literature, he will not remember the greatest works of art, he will forget the most important historical events, but if, with all this, he retains sensitivity to intellectual values, love of acquiring knowledge, interest in history, aesthetic flair, he will be able to distinguish a real work of art from a crude "gizmo" made only to surprise if he can admire the beauty of nature, understand the character and personality of another person, enter his position, and understanding another person, help him, will not show rudeness, indifference, gloating, envy, and will appreciate the other if he shows respect for the culture of the past,

Intelligence is not only in knowledge, but in the ability to understand the other. It manifests itself in a thousand and a thousand little things: in the ability to respectfully argue, to behave modestly at the table, in the ability to imperceptibly (precisely imperceptibly) to help another, to protect nature, not to litter around oneself - not to litter with cigarette butts or swearing, bad ideas (this is also garbage, and what another!).

I knew peasants in the Russian North who were truly intelligent. They observed amazing cleanliness in their homes, knew how to appreciate good songs, knew how to tell the "past" (that is, what happened to them or others), lived an orderly way of life, were hospitable and welcoming, were sympathetic to the grief of others, and to someone else's joy.

Intelligence is the ability to understand, to perceive, it is a tolerant attitude towards the world and towards people.

Intelligence must be developed in oneself, trained - to train mental strength, just as physical strength is trained. And training is possible and necessary in any conditions.

It is understandable that physical strength training promotes longevity. Much less people understand that for longevity it is also necessary to train spiritual and mental strength.

The fact is that an angry and angry reaction to the environment, rudeness and misunderstanding of others is a sign of mental and spiritual weakness, a human inability to live ... Pushing in a crowded bus is a weak and nervous person, exhausted, reacting incorrectly to everything. Quarreling with neighbors is also a person who does not know how to live, deaf mentally. The aesthetically unresponsive person is also an unhappy person. Not knowing how to understand another person, attributing only evil intentions to him, eternally offended by others - this is also a person who impoverishes his life and interferes with the life of others. Mental weakness leads to physical weakness. I am not a doctor, but I am convinced of this. Many years of experience have convinced me of this.

Friendliness and kindness make a person not only physically healthy, but also beautiful. Yes, exactly beautiful.

A person's face, distorted by anger, becomes ugly, and the movements of an evil person are devoid of grace - not deliberate grace, but natural grace, which is much more expensive.

The social duty of a person is to be intelligent. It is a duty to oneself. This is a guarantee of his personal happiness and an "aura of benevolence" around him and towards him (that is, addressed to him).

All that I talk about with young readers in this book is a call to intelligence, to physical and moral health, to the beauty of health. We will be long-term as people and as a people! And reverence for father and mother should be understood broadly - as reverence for all our best in the past, in the past, which is the father and mother of our modernity, great modernity, to which it is great happiness.

 

[Teacher]

Develop social intelligence

Salute, carders, now we will learn how to develop social intelligence.

Improve your social sensitivity.

The basis of social intelligence is empathy, or " social sensitivity." The key to developing this skill is to go beyond your selfishness and pay attention to other people. Moreover, it is better not just to pay attention to them, but to concentrate on what the object of your observation is doing, how it does it, why it does it, and so on.

It's easy enough for us, residents of megacities, to train in it — go down to the subway and don't rush to stick your smartphone in your face. Just look around and choose 3-4 people to watch.

Try to imagine where they are going, what thoughts they have in their head. Observe their facial expressions: what emotions are they experiencing at the moment? Try to imagine how this person talks to others, what they argue about, and how their emotions will manifest themselves.

Over time, you will suddenly realize that the wrinkles on the face of the object of your attention will quickly begin to come to life in your imagination and "enliven" the calm face with a smile or a displeased grimace.

Learn to understand your body language.

Modern man is a rather secretive creature, so in order to better understand what a person feels and what thoughts are in his head, it's a good idea to learn to read "body language". Here you can not reinvent the wheel and read the book by Alan Pease "Series" A and B = Formula for success"".

Learn to read emotions in your face.

According to the anatomical atlas, we have 57 muscles on our face. Thanks to this, our face itself is a powerful tool for communication, and the language of facial expressions was born even before the speech apparatus developed as a result of evolution. Accordingly, facial reading skills lie deeper in our genetic memory than linguistic "add-ons", which makes them more versatile.

Learn to hear.

Most people can listen, but not everyone can hear. When listening to the other person, try not just to extract only valuable information for you (as you usually do), but to represent through this story the reality in which your counterpart lives. Don't be afraid to ask leading questions and add new details to this reality.

After a while, you will be surprised that in the eyes of the other person, your authority will begin to grow. Why? After all, you did not tell him anything, but only listened and asked leading questions!

The mood of people is a very useful indicator for determining the timeliness of a particular social impact that you need. And the ability to quickly determine the mood of another person based on fragmentary, at first glance, information will help you quickly correct your behavior.

Remember how, as a child, you could tell from the loud slam of a door and a dissatisfied cough in the hallway what mood your father was in. You only needed a few indirect signs to figure out whether to give a diary with a deuce to sign or wait for the parent to have dinner and warm up.

Pump up your acting talent.

Once you've mastered a bit of all of the above, start developing your acting talents. Because one of the most important skills of social intelligence is the ability to adapt, to adapt to the environment.

And do not quote Makarevich's famous song "One day the world will bend under us" - if our goal is to learn how to manage the society around us, then the ability to truthfully play the role we need at the moment becomes an indispensable tool.

Learn to manage your emotions.

Those who are fond of photography, probably noticed that after a few thousand frames, an interesting phenomenon appears — you begin to look at the world around you as if through the camera's viewfinder, to assess how much this "picture" is interesting not to you, but to your friends or acquaintances. That is, you start to look at this world as if from the outside, the point of perception of reality suddenly goes beyond the boundaries of your consciousness and turns out to be somewhere on your Facebook page or LiveJournal.

So, with your emotions, you need to learn to do the same. If you suddenly feel that anger, anger, envy, grief, or any other strong feeling that you would like to control is beginning to manifest, shift the center of perception of reality and look at yourself from the outside ("Who is this angry person with such funny wrinkled lips?"). Look at the source of this emotion — for example, the enraged taxi driver who wedged himself into your lane without turn signals and almost blew off half of your bumper-and imagine how he pulled his head into his shoulders, waiting for your negative reaction.

If someone deliberately provoked this or that emotion in you (for example, there are people who specially arrange emotional "swings" to find out what kind of person is in front of you — it's easier for them to communicate), then find out why this person needed to cause your anger (pity, fear or laughter). Perhaps you are not on the same path with him?

Do not forget that emotions are a great tool for manipulation. But before you learn how to use them to manipulate others, make sure that you have your emotions under complete control.

Improve your public speaking skills.

A person who did not hesitate to make a report at a conference, make a toast at a wedding, or ask an inconvenient question at a general meeting of a country cooperative, at least for some time captured the attention of several listeners. And as a maximum, he was able to put the thoughts he needed into their heads.

If you are afraid to speak in public, then be sure to take the courses "The Art of presentation" or "Public Speaking", which are now full (both group and individual). Only during public speeches can you see how the mood of listeners changes in waves, which words cause strong emotions, how attention changes, and so on.