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“Once my friend had a fight with a guy, and I advised her to break up with him. But then they made up, and she accused me of wanting to take her boyfriend for myself ”- such stories are all too often. And this is just one example of how we can ruin our lives by starting to solve other people's problems.
And here are well-reasoned arguments why it is sometimes better to leave a person alone with his problems and not interfere with his help.
1. You deprive a person of experience
Remember yourself: no matter how much your parents warned you, no matter how much your friends warned you against an unpleasant situation, you managed to learn an important life lesson only when you did an undesirable act. Up to this point, you simply did not take the situation seriously. The same thing happens with other people. Therefore, do not prevent the person from learning from their own mistakes.
2. The situation will repeat itself with him again
All the problems that fall on our head are given to us so that we gain life experience and the next time we can calmly solve the situation that has arisen. Until we draw conclusions and learn how to cope with a specific problem, it will repeat itself over and over again.
3. Your help can only make the problem worse.
Unfortunately, very often trying from the bottom of our hearts to help a person, in the end we only make everything worse. And all because, analyzing the problem and looking for the best solution, we rely on our personal experience. But often we do not take into account subjective factors. And if it once worked for us, then it is not a fact that it will work under different circumstances and conditions, such as, for example, with your friend.
4. You deprive a person of social importance
In order for us to be confident in ourselves, we need to feel our social significance: that we are appreciated, that our words are taken seriously and respected as a person.
If you are accustomed to constantly interrupting others, making your own clearer adjustments, of course, out of good intentions, then it is better to quit immediately with this. Firstly, in this way you make the other person doubt yourself, and secondly, it at least just annoys others.
5. You put into a person the thought "you are weak"
Constant help from others gives rise to self-doubt, because everything is possible only when someone intervenes, and without outside support nothing will come of it, no matter how hard you try.
Do not prevent the person from going their own way. He must learn to achieve goals despite difficult circumstances. After all, if someone succeeds, then he will definitely succeed.
6. A person will constantly wait for help from outside
A fairytale fairy is about to arrive and turn the pumpkin into a carriage ... But, alas, no. Unfortunately, you and I do not live in a Disney fairy tale, and in order for the problem to somehow change, you need to do something for this.
If you constantly help a person, he will simply get used to such a solution to his problems and will wait for help every time.
And here are well-reasoned arguments why it is sometimes better to leave a person alone with his problems and not interfere with his help.
1. You deprive a person of experience
Remember yourself: no matter how much your parents warned you, no matter how much your friends warned you against an unpleasant situation, you managed to learn an important life lesson only when you did an undesirable act. Up to this point, you simply did not take the situation seriously. The same thing happens with other people. Therefore, do not prevent the person from learning from their own mistakes.
2. The situation will repeat itself with him again
All the problems that fall on our head are given to us so that we gain life experience and the next time we can calmly solve the situation that has arisen. Until we draw conclusions and learn how to cope with a specific problem, it will repeat itself over and over again.
3. Your help can only make the problem worse.
Unfortunately, very often trying from the bottom of our hearts to help a person, in the end we only make everything worse. And all because, analyzing the problem and looking for the best solution, we rely on our personal experience. But often we do not take into account subjective factors. And if it once worked for us, then it is not a fact that it will work under different circumstances and conditions, such as, for example, with your friend.
4. You deprive a person of social importance
In order for us to be confident in ourselves, we need to feel our social significance: that we are appreciated, that our words are taken seriously and respected as a person.
If you are accustomed to constantly interrupting others, making your own clearer adjustments, of course, out of good intentions, then it is better to quit immediately with this. Firstly, in this way you make the other person doubt yourself, and secondly, it at least just annoys others.
5. You put into a person the thought "you are weak"
Constant help from others gives rise to self-doubt, because everything is possible only when someone intervenes, and without outside support nothing will come of it, no matter how hard you try.
Do not prevent the person from going their own way. He must learn to achieve goals despite difficult circumstances. After all, if someone succeeds, then he will definitely succeed.
6. A person will constantly wait for help from outside
A fairytale fairy is about to arrive and turn the pumpkin into a carriage ... But, alas, no. Unfortunately, you and I do not live in a Disney fairy tale, and in order for the problem to somehow change, you need to do something for this.
If you constantly help a person, he will simply get used to such a solution to his problems and will wait for help every time.
