Before you become a cheerful optimist, a little about where this optimism comes from - the brain. Everyone has a brain, but not everyone has figured out the instructions yet))).
Our brains are so arranged that some of the departments responsible for changing thinking and behavior respond to the call to achieve something beautiful and wonderful. And the other part reacts to avoidance of all kinds of horror and horror.
There is a third part of the brain that compares the real position of our life in the present with what we strive for and what we avoid. This is where the witchcraft of our inner states, self-esteem, satisfaction and happiness occurs.
It is on these principles that we can build the reprogramming of our attitude to life and our inner state in the moment “here and now”.
We absolutely do not need to give up goals - important and urgent: we do not need to wait until some of them are achieved in order to be happy.
The absence of a state of happiness is the imperfection of our brain, abruptly placed from the pristine nature into the modern world, raging with colorful events.
Therefore, we need to work on improving it.
Let's start with simple steps:
1. "I had everything: a very decent stereo system, a very respectable wardrobe, a little more - and nothing to wish for." (c) Fight Club
Remember the moment every day when you really wanted what you already have today; what has already become familiar: a car, an apartment, a job. Realize that the idea “when I reach such and such a goal, then we will live” is empty. We don't need anything at all for life, except for a roof over our heads, food and loved ones. But it would be so boring. Therefore, we play in achieving all sorts of goals. Start treating all of your goals like a game.
2. “- Hey, listen, I'm suffering!
Are you suffering? Pop into a Methodist church on Tuesday night, see testicular cancer patients. Here they are suffering. "(c) Fight Club
Think of those people who suffer from a terminal illness every day.
Imagine for a second that you are telling your loved ones: "The doctors said that there is only a month left to live."
Think about what you would spend this time on? Where would you start?
What new things would you do, how would you change your relationship with some people?
Take 5 minutes to do this.
Now go back. Are you OK. What conclusions can be drawn?
Maybe you should think about something more often, but less often about something?
Call someone and apologize? To meet with someone. After all, in fact, this is not such a fictional experiment. People often do not suspect that this is the last time in their life they are talking or doing something with someone. So is it worth wasting time to spoil the mood for yourself and others?
3. “- I have found freedom. Freedom is the loss of all hopes." (c) Fight Club
Realize that any event, even a negative one, has a number of positive consequences, which sometimes outweigh the resulting negative by many times.
Think of a few situations that seemed completely negative to you.
You missed the train, you couldn't get somewhere, everything did not go as you expected, you didn't get what you intended to get.
Now think: what good would not have happened if this event had not happened? And what bad thing could have happened if this event had not happened exactly then?
Do you feel how ambiguous you can assess any situation?
When something undesirable happens, immediately remember this exercise and try to include an inner acceptance of the situation, not yet knowing what good it will lead to, but realizing exactly what will happen.
Our brains are so arranged that some of the departments responsible for changing thinking and behavior respond to the call to achieve something beautiful and wonderful. And the other part reacts to avoidance of all kinds of horror and horror.
There is a third part of the brain that compares the real position of our life in the present with what we strive for and what we avoid. This is where the witchcraft of our inner states, self-esteem, satisfaction and happiness occurs.
It is on these principles that we can build the reprogramming of our attitude to life and our inner state in the moment “here and now”.
We absolutely do not need to give up goals - important and urgent: we do not need to wait until some of them are achieved in order to be happy.
The absence of a state of happiness is the imperfection of our brain, abruptly placed from the pristine nature into the modern world, raging with colorful events.
Therefore, we need to work on improving it.
Let's start with simple steps:
1. "I had everything: a very decent stereo system, a very respectable wardrobe, a little more - and nothing to wish for." (c) Fight Club
Remember the moment every day when you really wanted what you already have today; what has already become familiar: a car, an apartment, a job. Realize that the idea “when I reach such and such a goal, then we will live” is empty. We don't need anything at all for life, except for a roof over our heads, food and loved ones. But it would be so boring. Therefore, we play in achieving all sorts of goals. Start treating all of your goals like a game.
2. “- Hey, listen, I'm suffering!
Are you suffering? Pop into a Methodist church on Tuesday night, see testicular cancer patients. Here they are suffering. "(c) Fight Club
Think of those people who suffer from a terminal illness every day.
Imagine for a second that you are telling your loved ones: "The doctors said that there is only a month left to live."
Think about what you would spend this time on? Where would you start?
What new things would you do, how would you change your relationship with some people?
Take 5 minutes to do this.
Now go back. Are you OK. What conclusions can be drawn?
Maybe you should think about something more often, but less often about something?
Call someone and apologize? To meet with someone. After all, in fact, this is not such a fictional experiment. People often do not suspect that this is the last time in their life they are talking or doing something with someone. So is it worth wasting time to spoil the mood for yourself and others?
3. “- I have found freedom. Freedom is the loss of all hopes." (c) Fight Club
Realize that any event, even a negative one, has a number of positive consequences, which sometimes outweigh the resulting negative by many times.
Think of a few situations that seemed completely negative to you.
You missed the train, you couldn't get somewhere, everything did not go as you expected, you didn't get what you intended to get.
Now think: what good would not have happened if this event had not happened? And what bad thing could have happened if this event had not happened exactly then?
Do you feel how ambiguous you can assess any situation?
When something undesirable happens, immediately remember this exercise and try to include an inner acceptance of the situation, not yet knowing what good it will lead to, but realizing exactly what will happen.
