Lord777
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1. You are jealous of other people. Don't let envy (or jealousy) get the better of you. Envy is an art, instead of noticing the good things that happen in your life, seeing the good only in the lives of others. Trust me, there is absolutely nothing good or attractive about this behavior. So stop comparing your life path with the path of others. Your path is exactly the path, not a marathon with rivals. In your life, you have only one real rival, and that is yourself. You are competing with yourself, trying to become better than you are now. And if you want to know how much you have progressed, you just have to compare yourself now with yourself yesterday.
2. You take everything too personally. - When people begin to believe that everything that happens around them is aimed at insulting them, humiliating them, or simply somehow concerns them, they become simply unbearable. The truth is, most of what people tell you has to do with them, but not with you. People's reactions to you have been filtered through perspective, trauma, and experience. And if people consider you a wonderful person or, conversely, think that there is no one worse than you in the whole world - the sources of this opinion for the most part lie in the depths of their souls. No, I do not believe that we should all become narcissistic egoists, ignoring everything that others tell us. I'm just saying that we can relieve ourselves of most of the frustration, pain, and sadness if we don't take what we hear to heart.
3. You always act as if you are the victim. - Yes, yes, one of the most unpleasant lines of behavior is to constantly complain in order to feed your sense of victim. Believing that you are a victim, that you have no control over the direction in which your life is going, poisons your mind and makes you stagnate. After my experience as a mentor with people whose lives have started to go downhill, but who have found the strength and courage to rectify the situation, I know that we all have much more power and control over our lives than we think. When we stop complaining and stop seeing ourselves as just a helpless victim, we begin to realize that we are much stronger than we previously thought - but for this we must accept it.
4. You accumulate pain and loss. - One of the hardest lessons in life is learning how to let go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, or loss. Change never comes easily into our lives - you fight with yourself to accept it, and you fight with yourself to let go of what you are used to. But often the best course of action is to let go. He removes from you the burden of the past that poisons your life. You must emotionally free yourself from the past and the pain it brings you. Yes, it is not easy to re-focus your thoughts on something else, but believe me, it is worth every drop of the effort.
5. You are obsessed with negative thoughts. - It is very difficult to be around people whose thoughts are full of negativity - just imagine what it is like to constantly hear about terrible things that happened, did not happen and can happen, how no one loves them and how unfair life is to them ... Such people simply refuse to see the bright side of life and learn from it positive lessons. Pessimism is generally tolerable, but constantly thinking in only negative categories is quite another. And much worse. Seeing only negative around, initially assuming that there is only evil around, and the whole world is opposed to you - this is a completely perverse outlook on life. It is not just worth changing - it needs to be changed.
6. You are not in control of your emotions. - Failure to take control of your emotions is a surefire way to poison the lives of everyone around you. We all know such people who explode with anger or tears, meeting with the slightest obstacle in their path or experiencing inconvenience. Yelling at a salesperson in a store for slow service, venting anger at subordinates for minor mistakes, or scolding a daughter for half an hour for spilling juice on the floor is simply unworthy. If you find yourself overly emotional and constantly losing control of yourself, you may need outside help so you can get your emotions in check and get to the root of your eternal anger. Sometimes it contains much more than is visible from the surface. An independent perspective and professional support can work wonders.
7. You are always ready to judge other people from your point of view. - It is not always worth judging a person by what he shows to the outside world (including you). Remember, what you see is often just what this person has decided to show you, or even what he is forced to show because of internal stress and pain. Alas, in many cases, when someone hurts you, it happens because someone himself was wounded right in the soul. His suffering just spilled over on you, but is it their fault? They do not need to be punished for this, and there is no need to mock them. They need help. And if you can't help, it's better to just step aside.
8. You are cruel (or lack of empathy and empathy). - One of the most poisonous behaviors - cruelty - stems from a complete lack of empathy, caring for other people, or empathy. We encounter her every day on the Internet and on the news channels - we see how people offend and hurt other people simply because they can. They insidiously and cowardly inflict pain on the net, using their anonymity as a shield. Cruelty, deceit and voluntary harm to people is the most poisonous behavior that harms not only those around you, but also yourself. If you find yourself trampling yourself in the mud simply because you feel like it, stop. Look into your soul, try to find sympathy there, and understand - it hurts others too.
9. You are deceiving other people and behaving immorally just because you can. - Deception is a voluntary choice, not a mistake, and nothing can justify it! If you decide to deceive someone, and you succeeded, do not try to justify yourself by saying that this person is a fool and deserves it. Understand that he trusted you more than you deserve. Don't stoop to that. Don't be immoral just because you can get away with it. Don't cheat other people. Be honest with them - and with yourself too. Do the right thing. Personal integrity is the foundation of any success.
10. You hide your real identity behind a mask. - How can people understand who you really are, if you are hiding even from yourself? And from the moment someone becomes attached to your fake identity, it begins to poison your soul. So remember - no matter what age you are, race, gender or sexual orientation, under all these external, superficial "decorations" you are pure and beautiful. We are all beautiful. Each of us shines with his own light, and each has his own purpose in life. And the fact that you are different from others is wonderful. Be glad that you are different, that you are not going the wrong way, that you are a little weird and that you stand apart from the crowd. And if you feel like a fish jumping out of the water - find yourself a new river. But never try to change who you are. On the contrary, be yourself. Don '
11. You constantly need someone's approval. - It is not easy to be around people who do all their actions in order to gain someone's approval. They were completely swallowed up by the need to prove to the whole world that they are worth something, and they are constantly trying to lure everyone around to their side. By any means. It is impossible to convey how exhausting it is for others. Know - if you constantly think only about how you look in the eyes of others, you are pulling back both yourself and them. Your life has meaning, and it's not about being someone for someone else all the time. The meaning of life on the road, in the process, on the journey is what you learn, what you help others to know, and how you look in your eyes.
12. You are sick with insatiable perfectionism. - Yes, people tend to strive for hypothetical, unattainable ideals. We all do this in search of the perfect home, work, friend or loved one. The only problem is that permanent perfection simply does not exist. Life is an endless journey, constantly evolving and changing. What is ideal today may not be so tomorrow - an ideal home, work, friend or loved one may not be so ideal tomorrow. But if you do not give up and keep your mind open to new ideas, this imperfect house can become sweet and cozy over time, an imperfect job will turn out to be your dream career, an imperfect friend will always lend you a shoulder in difficult times, and you will live with an imperfect partner. all of my life. So learn to understand.
2. You take everything too personally. - When people begin to believe that everything that happens around them is aimed at insulting them, humiliating them, or simply somehow concerns them, they become simply unbearable. The truth is, most of what people tell you has to do with them, but not with you. People's reactions to you have been filtered through perspective, trauma, and experience. And if people consider you a wonderful person or, conversely, think that there is no one worse than you in the whole world - the sources of this opinion for the most part lie in the depths of their souls. No, I do not believe that we should all become narcissistic egoists, ignoring everything that others tell us. I'm just saying that we can relieve ourselves of most of the frustration, pain, and sadness if we don't take what we hear to heart.
3. You always act as if you are the victim. - Yes, yes, one of the most unpleasant lines of behavior is to constantly complain in order to feed your sense of victim. Believing that you are a victim, that you have no control over the direction in which your life is going, poisons your mind and makes you stagnate. After my experience as a mentor with people whose lives have started to go downhill, but who have found the strength and courage to rectify the situation, I know that we all have much more power and control over our lives than we think. When we stop complaining and stop seeing ourselves as just a helpless victim, we begin to realize that we are much stronger than we previously thought - but for this we must accept it.
4. You accumulate pain and loss. - One of the hardest lessons in life is learning how to let go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, or loss. Change never comes easily into our lives - you fight with yourself to accept it, and you fight with yourself to let go of what you are used to. But often the best course of action is to let go. He removes from you the burden of the past that poisons your life. You must emotionally free yourself from the past and the pain it brings you. Yes, it is not easy to re-focus your thoughts on something else, but believe me, it is worth every drop of the effort.
5. You are obsessed with negative thoughts. - It is very difficult to be around people whose thoughts are full of negativity - just imagine what it is like to constantly hear about terrible things that happened, did not happen and can happen, how no one loves them and how unfair life is to them ... Such people simply refuse to see the bright side of life and learn from it positive lessons. Pessimism is generally tolerable, but constantly thinking in only negative categories is quite another. And much worse. Seeing only negative around, initially assuming that there is only evil around, and the whole world is opposed to you - this is a completely perverse outlook on life. It is not just worth changing - it needs to be changed.
6. You are not in control of your emotions. - Failure to take control of your emotions is a surefire way to poison the lives of everyone around you. We all know such people who explode with anger or tears, meeting with the slightest obstacle in their path or experiencing inconvenience. Yelling at a salesperson in a store for slow service, venting anger at subordinates for minor mistakes, or scolding a daughter for half an hour for spilling juice on the floor is simply unworthy. If you find yourself overly emotional and constantly losing control of yourself, you may need outside help so you can get your emotions in check and get to the root of your eternal anger. Sometimes it contains much more than is visible from the surface. An independent perspective and professional support can work wonders.
7. You are always ready to judge other people from your point of view. - It is not always worth judging a person by what he shows to the outside world (including you). Remember, what you see is often just what this person has decided to show you, or even what he is forced to show because of internal stress and pain. Alas, in many cases, when someone hurts you, it happens because someone himself was wounded right in the soul. His suffering just spilled over on you, but is it their fault? They do not need to be punished for this, and there is no need to mock them. They need help. And if you can't help, it's better to just step aside.
8. You are cruel (or lack of empathy and empathy). - One of the most poisonous behaviors - cruelty - stems from a complete lack of empathy, caring for other people, or empathy. We encounter her every day on the Internet and on the news channels - we see how people offend and hurt other people simply because they can. They insidiously and cowardly inflict pain on the net, using their anonymity as a shield. Cruelty, deceit and voluntary harm to people is the most poisonous behavior that harms not only those around you, but also yourself. If you find yourself trampling yourself in the mud simply because you feel like it, stop. Look into your soul, try to find sympathy there, and understand - it hurts others too.
9. You are deceiving other people and behaving immorally just because you can. - Deception is a voluntary choice, not a mistake, and nothing can justify it! If you decide to deceive someone, and you succeeded, do not try to justify yourself by saying that this person is a fool and deserves it. Understand that he trusted you more than you deserve. Don't stoop to that. Don't be immoral just because you can get away with it. Don't cheat other people. Be honest with them - and with yourself too. Do the right thing. Personal integrity is the foundation of any success.
10. You hide your real identity behind a mask. - How can people understand who you really are, if you are hiding even from yourself? And from the moment someone becomes attached to your fake identity, it begins to poison your soul. So remember - no matter what age you are, race, gender or sexual orientation, under all these external, superficial "decorations" you are pure and beautiful. We are all beautiful. Each of us shines with his own light, and each has his own purpose in life. And the fact that you are different from others is wonderful. Be glad that you are different, that you are not going the wrong way, that you are a little weird and that you stand apart from the crowd. And if you feel like a fish jumping out of the water - find yourself a new river. But never try to change who you are. On the contrary, be yourself. Don '
11. You constantly need someone's approval. - It is not easy to be around people who do all their actions in order to gain someone's approval. They were completely swallowed up by the need to prove to the whole world that they are worth something, and they are constantly trying to lure everyone around to their side. By any means. It is impossible to convey how exhausting it is for others. Know - if you constantly think only about how you look in the eyes of others, you are pulling back both yourself and them. Your life has meaning, and it's not about being someone for someone else all the time. The meaning of life on the road, in the process, on the journey is what you learn, what you help others to know, and how you look in your eyes.
12. You are sick with insatiable perfectionism. - Yes, people tend to strive for hypothetical, unattainable ideals. We all do this in search of the perfect home, work, friend or loved one. The only problem is that permanent perfection simply does not exist. Life is an endless journey, constantly evolving and changing. What is ideal today may not be so tomorrow - an ideal home, work, friend or loved one may not be so ideal tomorrow. But if you do not give up and keep your mind open to new ideas, this imperfect house can become sweet and cozy over time, an imperfect job will turn out to be your dream career, an imperfect friend will always lend you a shoulder in difficult times, and you will live with an imperfect partner. all of my life. So learn to understand.
