Do you know how to make one reckon with one correct look, how not to succumb to pressure from other people and even the most vile acquaintances to communicate with sincere sympathy and kindness? Here are 10 ways to manage people from one of the most famous business coaches in Russia, Vladimir Tarasov. It really comes in handy for everyone in both business and personal life.
Many people believe that management techniques are useful only for those whose profession is related to management. In fact, this is a set of techniques that can be applied in any area of life where society is present.
Do not succumb to the provocations of an old harmful neighbor, build correct relationships with children, establish contact with unpleasant relatives or employees, in the end, it is profitable to sell a dacha or even a sofa on Avito.
In other words, a set of techniques will work with absolutely all people, regardless of their gender, age and social status.
For people in leadership positions and entrepreneurs, the first step is to learn how to manage people. Of course, it is not enough just some chips, gleaned from different sites.
For masterful management of people, you need a full set of techniques and even a slightly changed worldview.
But I'll talk about this later, and now - 10 ways that will be useful to you in your career and in life.
1. Correct view
There is a special look that makes people reckon with you, recognize you as a strong adversary at the subconscious level.
This look can be useful in any controversial situation when you want to declare that you are worth reckoning with, and you make the decisions here.
It is necessary to look into the eyes, but not to the surface of the eye, but, as it were, through it, looking into the soul. It turns out a piercing look that declares your decisive attitude. And people feel it.
2. Energy break
To get what they want, people sometimes use the tactless questioning method around other people. In private, you would not hesitate to answer or answer negatively, but in public you are confused and you can agree or answer so as not to seem greedy, secretive, and so on.
In order not to fall for this bait, you can use the energy pause method. You look the person in the eye as if you are about to answer. He prepares to accept your answer, but you don't answer.
You keep looking at him, but you don't say anything. He looks away in confusion, and then you start talking about something else. After such an incident, he will no longer try to force you to answer in public.
3. Pause and encouragement
Sometimes people try to demand something by relying solely on the intensity of their demand. That is, a person, in principle, understands that his demand is unfounded, and you understand that.
However, he is actively and very emotionally demanding something, hoping that you will give in for fear of conflict. If you support his tone or start to object, the conflict will take place.
Instead, pause and kindly encourage the person to continue the conversation. Feeling support, the person will cease to get excited, will begin to speak more calmly.
But after that, do not break the silence, nod and encourage him to speak further. The person will begin to explain, then - to make excuses and, finally, to apologize.
4. Protection from gaze
Of course, some techniques are used not only by you and not only consciously. It happens that people unconsciously feel how to act in order to achieve what they want, and behave that way.
If you notice the intent gaze of the interlocutor, he may apply some kind of psychological influence to you, it does not matter, consciously or not.
Remember, you don't have to play peepers with him by accepting the rules of his game. Look into his eyes, smile, making it clear that you noticed his gaze and you do not care, and look at other objects.
5. Overcome dislike
Life often confronts us with unpleasant people with whom we simply have to communicate and maintain good relations.
To maintain normal communication or get something from this person, you have to really overcome the dislike for him. And not just putting on a fake smile, but imbued with sympathy and kindness.
How to do this if you have a scandalous vile type?
Imagine him as a small child. If a child is behaving badly, then he is angry, unhappy, or spoiled. In any case, the environment is to blame for this.
In principle, this is true, so you are not even kidding yourself. When you see this person as a child, you cannot be angry with him, and people always feel kindness and compassion, and this disarms them.
6. Pressure
Many people pressure their co-workers, relatives and friends to get what they want. How it looks from the outside: repeated repetition of the same requirements - sometimes soft, sometimes hard, sometimes persistent and emotional, sometimes unobtrusive.
The main purpose of pressure is to deprive you of the hope that a request or demand can be avoided.
The person makes you understand that you simply cannot do it differently, he will stand his ground until the very end.
What can you do about it? It helps a lot to call things by their proper names. For example, you can immediately ask a person: "Are you pressing me?" As a rule, the person is then lost. The ability to say “no” firmly is equally important.
7. Ability to say "no"
You must learn to say "no", this will be very useful in the fight against all sorts of manipulators, among which there may be not only obsessive partners, but also your friends or relatives.
You must learn to say exactly this word - "no". Not "it won't work," or "I don't know," or "we'll see," but a firm "no."
Of course, such a categorical refusal is not suitable in all cases, but in some situations it is necessary.
8. Don't explain your refusal
This is also a great skill that is acquired with experience. If you turned down someone, said your firm "no", manage to do without explanations, and even more so without excuses.
At the same time, you should not feel guilty for the fact that you refuse without explanation. People feel an inner attitude, and if you hesitate within yourself, they will get comments from you and maybe even persuade you.
And again, it is not always necessary to refuse without explanation, but there are times when it is necessary.
9. Position without evidence
Proofs often play a negative role in negotiations. Rightness is a state that is transmitted at the level of sensations. You feel right and other people agree with you.
If you start to prove your position with arguments, it can destroy your confidence in the rightness.
Let's say you give one argument, and your interlocutor refutes it. If after that you give the second argument, then you agree that the first was unsuccessful, and this is the loss of your positions and unshakable faith in your righteousness.
10. Commit the new role
If you enter a new role - department head, team captain, or some other - you need to immediately fix it, indicating your powers. As soon as possible, do in your new role what you could not have done in your old one.
Give some order, make a decision, ask your subordinates for an answer, and so on. The longer you wait to take on a new role, the more your rights may be curtailed.
These ways to manage people and not allow themselves to be manipulated are only a small part of all management art techniques that change not only your communication style, but also your worldview. And you can get it by learning from professionals.
Management art and a new worldview
Vladimir Tarasov, business coach, sociotechnologist and bestseller on the art of management, provides coaching for those who want to become a master in management.
A large-scale program of 40 online seminars in management art will begin at the end of January 2015.
For 10 months, once a week, a seminar will be held in the form of an online broadcast around the world, where a business coach will tell interesting techniques, analyze individual cases of participants and help them create their own strong philosophy.
Coaching consists not only of useful practices and techniques that may come in handy, but also of working with participants, with specific people and their problems.
Many people believe that management techniques are useful only for those whose profession is related to management. In fact, this is a set of techniques that can be applied in any area of life where society is present.
Do not succumb to the provocations of an old harmful neighbor, build correct relationships with children, establish contact with unpleasant relatives or employees, in the end, it is profitable to sell a dacha or even a sofa on Avito.
In other words, a set of techniques will work with absolutely all people, regardless of their gender, age and social status.
For people in leadership positions and entrepreneurs, the first step is to learn how to manage people. Of course, it is not enough just some chips, gleaned from different sites.
For masterful management of people, you need a full set of techniques and even a slightly changed worldview.
But I'll talk about this later, and now - 10 ways that will be useful to you in your career and in life.
1. Correct view
There is a special look that makes people reckon with you, recognize you as a strong adversary at the subconscious level.
This look can be useful in any controversial situation when you want to declare that you are worth reckoning with, and you make the decisions here.
It is necessary to look into the eyes, but not to the surface of the eye, but, as it were, through it, looking into the soul. It turns out a piercing look that declares your decisive attitude. And people feel it.
2. Energy break
To get what they want, people sometimes use the tactless questioning method around other people. In private, you would not hesitate to answer or answer negatively, but in public you are confused and you can agree or answer so as not to seem greedy, secretive, and so on.
In order not to fall for this bait, you can use the energy pause method. You look the person in the eye as if you are about to answer. He prepares to accept your answer, but you don't answer.
You keep looking at him, but you don't say anything. He looks away in confusion, and then you start talking about something else. After such an incident, he will no longer try to force you to answer in public.
3. Pause and encouragement
Sometimes people try to demand something by relying solely on the intensity of their demand. That is, a person, in principle, understands that his demand is unfounded, and you understand that.
However, he is actively and very emotionally demanding something, hoping that you will give in for fear of conflict. If you support his tone or start to object, the conflict will take place.
Instead, pause and kindly encourage the person to continue the conversation. Feeling support, the person will cease to get excited, will begin to speak more calmly.
But after that, do not break the silence, nod and encourage him to speak further. The person will begin to explain, then - to make excuses and, finally, to apologize.
4. Protection from gaze
Of course, some techniques are used not only by you and not only consciously. It happens that people unconsciously feel how to act in order to achieve what they want, and behave that way.
If you notice the intent gaze of the interlocutor, he may apply some kind of psychological influence to you, it does not matter, consciously or not.
Remember, you don't have to play peepers with him by accepting the rules of his game. Look into his eyes, smile, making it clear that you noticed his gaze and you do not care, and look at other objects.
5. Overcome dislike
Life often confronts us with unpleasant people with whom we simply have to communicate and maintain good relations.
To maintain normal communication or get something from this person, you have to really overcome the dislike for him. And not just putting on a fake smile, but imbued with sympathy and kindness.
How to do this if you have a scandalous vile type?
Imagine him as a small child. If a child is behaving badly, then he is angry, unhappy, or spoiled. In any case, the environment is to blame for this.
In principle, this is true, so you are not even kidding yourself. When you see this person as a child, you cannot be angry with him, and people always feel kindness and compassion, and this disarms them.
6. Pressure
Many people pressure their co-workers, relatives and friends to get what they want. How it looks from the outside: repeated repetition of the same requirements - sometimes soft, sometimes hard, sometimes persistent and emotional, sometimes unobtrusive.
The main purpose of pressure is to deprive you of the hope that a request or demand can be avoided.
The person makes you understand that you simply cannot do it differently, he will stand his ground until the very end.
What can you do about it? It helps a lot to call things by their proper names. For example, you can immediately ask a person: "Are you pressing me?" As a rule, the person is then lost. The ability to say “no” firmly is equally important.
7. Ability to say "no"
You must learn to say "no", this will be very useful in the fight against all sorts of manipulators, among which there may be not only obsessive partners, but also your friends or relatives.
You must learn to say exactly this word - "no". Not "it won't work," or "I don't know," or "we'll see," but a firm "no."
Of course, such a categorical refusal is not suitable in all cases, but in some situations it is necessary.
8. Don't explain your refusal
This is also a great skill that is acquired with experience. If you turned down someone, said your firm "no", manage to do without explanations, and even more so without excuses.
At the same time, you should not feel guilty for the fact that you refuse without explanation. People feel an inner attitude, and if you hesitate within yourself, they will get comments from you and maybe even persuade you.
And again, it is not always necessary to refuse without explanation, but there are times when it is necessary.
9. Position without evidence
Proofs often play a negative role in negotiations. Rightness is a state that is transmitted at the level of sensations. You feel right and other people agree with you.
If you start to prove your position with arguments, it can destroy your confidence in the rightness.
Let's say you give one argument, and your interlocutor refutes it. If after that you give the second argument, then you agree that the first was unsuccessful, and this is the loss of your positions and unshakable faith in your righteousness.
10. Commit the new role
If you enter a new role - department head, team captain, or some other - you need to immediately fix it, indicating your powers. As soon as possible, do in your new role what you could not have done in your old one.
Give some order, make a decision, ask your subordinates for an answer, and so on. The longer you wait to take on a new role, the more your rights may be curtailed.
These ways to manage people and not allow themselves to be manipulated are only a small part of all management art techniques that change not only your communication style, but also your worldview. And you can get it by learning from professionals.
Management art and a new worldview
Vladimir Tarasov, business coach, sociotechnologist and bestseller on the art of management, provides coaching for those who want to become a master in management.
A large-scale program of 40 online seminars in management art will begin at the end of January 2015.
For 10 months, once a week, a seminar will be held in the form of an online broadcast around the world, where a business coach will tell interesting techniques, analyze individual cases of participants and help them create their own strong philosophy.
Coaching consists not only of useful practices and techniques that may come in handy, but also of working with participants, with specific people and their problems.
